I suspect most women are not ready to give up the engagement ring thing. Do you want a down payment on a home or a rock on your finger?
Engagement rings are a sexist tradition. Women wait for men to offer the ring along with a proposal of marriage. It’s giving the opposite sex the power to control our futures.
Feminism notwithstanding, I suspect most women are not ready to give up the ring thing. Still, some women buy into the bigger-is-better philosophy when it comes to the diamond. Men spend more than they can afford on the ring so the woman will have something to show off. The particularly smug get into clarity, cut, color and all the other qualities of the bauble that, really, only a professional should know about.
If you are in love and want to get married, then tie the knot. Do you want a down payment on a home or a rock on your finger?
Sure those precious gems are shiny, but so are sardines, and you don’t see people cutting those up and making trinkets.
It’s all so unromantic.
There will always be bigger and better diamonds than yours out there, so be prepared. Size really should not matter, but to many it does. If you find a ring – be it a diamond or another stone – that is uniquely symbolic of your love and commitment in your relationship, you will have a happy reminder whenever you glance at your hand.
It’s prudent, especially in this economy, to be more practical and creative when becoming engaged and showing your love in a nonmaterialistic fashion. You can’t put a price tag on true love.
Now, that’s romantic.
Patriot Ledger contributor Dianne McDonald is a working mother who lives in Marshfield, Mass., with her husband and five kids.